Thoughts for You

How to Personalise Your Wedding Ceremony

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 01:27:10 GMT

My Tips For Your Happy Day

Your wedding day will be one of the most special moments of your life, and your ceremony should reflect the unique bond you two share. While the setting, the dress, and the reception all contribute to the celebration, your ceremony itself is the heart of the day. Your personalised ceremony will not only add depth to the occasion but will also create a meaningful experience for the two of you and your loved ones.

As a celebrant with years of experience creating heartfelt ceremonies, I’ve seen how personal touches can transform a wedding into something unforgettable. Here are a few tips for personalising your wedding ceremony, ensuring it’s a true reflection of your relationship.

1. Tell Your Love Story

One of the easiest and most meaningful ways to personalise your ceremony is by sharing your journey as a couple. I can weave your story into the ceremony, highlighting the moments that brought you together. Whether it’s your first date, the proposal, or the little moments that mean the most to you, your love story will serve as a beautiful backdrop to the vows you will exchange.

2. Incorporate Meaningful Traditions or Rituals

You may have traditions or rituals you hold dear, whether from your culture, religion, or personal beliefs. We can integrate these rituals into the ceremony to honour your heritage or create new traditions together. Some popular options include:

Handfasting: A symbolic act where your hands are bound together, representing the joining of lives.
Unity Candle or Sand Ceremony: A way to blend two lives into one, symbolising unity and the beauty of coming together.
Reading of Vows: Personal vows allow you to express your love in your own words, making the moment even more meaningful.

If you have a special ritual in mind or want to create one, I can help you incorporate it seamlessly into the ceremony.

3. Involve Your Loved Ones

Your wedding is not just about you and your partner - it’s also about the community of family and friends who support your relationship. Involve them in the ceremony to create a shared experience. You can ask loved ones to read poems, light candles, or even share a personal blessing. For example, a parent or close friend could be asked to give a blessing or offer a reading that speaks to the bond you share.

This not only adds a personal touch but also helps your guests feel more connected to the ceremony and your relationship.

4. Custom Vows

Your vows are a reflection of the promises you are making to each other. Writing your own vows allows you to express your love in your own words, ensuring the moment is deeply personal. Whether heartfelt, humorous, or romantic, your vows will create a memorable moment that resonates throughout the ceremony. Sharing these promises in front of family and friends adds an emotional depth to the occasion. I can assist you if you require me to do so.

5. Choose a Meaningful Location

The venue sets the tone for your ceremony, but it can also be a reflection of your personality as a couple. Whether it’s a stunning beach, a cosy garden or a family home, choosing a location that holds personal significance can make your ceremony even more special. Discuss your vision with me so that I may suggest places that align with your love story and desired atmosphere.

6. Add Personal Touches to the Ceremony Script

The script of your ceremony should reflect your personality as a couple. As a celebrant, I will work with you to ensure the words spoken during the ceremony feel authentic to you. Whether it’s including light-hearted anecdotes or a moment of reflection, I tailor each script to fit your tone, style, and vision.

Leap Year Proposal

Mon, 24 Feb 2020 22:02:15 GMT

Leaping into the Future

Leaping to a Marriage Proposal

I’m writing this a few days before 29th February, a date that occurs only once in four years when we add an extra day to the calendar. This was originally established by Emperor Julius Caesar in the year 45 BC because the Roman year was originally 355 days and he wanted to keep the seasons happening at the same time every year. In the modern sense, the first leap year in Britain was 1752, when Britain and her colonies adopted the Gregorian calendar and they chose to add eleven days in September that year.

A leap year occurs when the year is divisible by four and is notable now because it’s usually a year when the Olympic Games are held. But it also has some fascinating traditions surrounding it, and a search of the Internet will reveal all. I’ve taken this information from various sources, most particularly timeanddate.com.

It may be history, or perhaps an old Irish legend, that St Brigid struck a deal with St Patrick to allow women to propose to men every four years. In many European countries, any man who refused such a proposal had to pay a penalty by buying the woman twelve pairs of gloves, so that she could hide the embarrassment of not having an engagement ring. In other places and cultures the day was known as Bachelors’ Day, and the man would hand over money or a gown if he refused.

Leap Day is also called St Oswald’s Day, to commemorate the Archbishop of York, who died on this day in 992.

If you have a child born on 29th February, make sure they are named in the Honor Society of Leap Year Day Babies (their spelling of Honour , not mine!). Of course, those children will always have fewer birthdays than the rest of us and will always be much younger!!

You could choose to have a wedding anniversary date that nobody will forget by being married on that day. No that’s really special.

Finally, if you’re becoming impatient waiting for a proposal, don’t wait any longer. Take a 'Leap' of faith and

DO IT YOURSELF!

Creating Future Memories

alan@sevenblessings.com.au (Alan Jacobs) — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 01:44:54 GMT

Writing a life story

Photos like the above are memories. How would you like people to remember your Life Story? How will you tell them what you want them to know?

And what about the future descendants you’ll never meet, who may want to learn about their heritage.

Everybody has a story but perhaps one of life’s most frustrating situations is when you would like to know more about somebody and they are no longer around to ask. You can ensure that this is not what happens in the future when someone wants to know your story.

Some people are shy and need to be prompted for information, some are unable to explain in their own words and need a guide to organise and present material, others may need someone to hold them to the point. And others may need to be prompted to search the photo albums.

I have a long history of interviewing people in a comfortable, non-threatening way and can effectively gain information on various aspects of your Life Story or that of your loved one. The material might be needed for background to a job interview, a wedding unique to a particular couple, a funeral where it seems like I really knew the deceased. Or you may want a document that is kept forever as a permanent history.

The depth of the information acquired may vary, but the technique in gathering it is the same. I interview my clients and any relevant family and friends. I may do historical research to support what you tell me.

The amount of information needed for a public occasion may be merely a small portion what I put together as a Future Heirloom – but the fuller information is then available for you to enjoy and marvel at.

Talk to me about how we can proceed to develop your Life Story as a Future Heirloom .

Do I have to?

alan@sevenblessings.com.au (Alan Jacobs) — Mon, 16 Jul 2018 04:34:12 GMT

Do I have to?

I am often asked ‘Do we have to?’

Simply, NO! - apart from the compulsory legal sections which must be included in the ceremony.

Buck tradition if you want! It is your wedding day so stamp your own creativity on to the ceremony; make it truly your own, and totally memorable for all concerned.

Obviously, you will have ideas way and beyond what I will mention here, but all of the following have occurred in at least one wedding at which I officiated.

For brides – consider wearing something other than white. Or if you wish to wear white, consider a special addition. We have seen several brides wearing red shoes Consider a second-hand dress: either your mother’s, a friend’s, or one purchased on e-Bay or similar. Very trendy.

Dress to a theme, or a colour scheme. Carry the colour or theme through in the text of the ceremony, with my help.

Grooms and their attendants have turned up in old-fashioned frock coats, pale grey ‘morning suits’ (that’s not a misprint for ‘mourning suits’) and even smart shorts.

Bridal party attendants can be ‘best girl’ or ‘bride’s man’ depending on your preferences.

Your witnesses might be your grandmothers, rather than your best friends.

For the reception, if in an appropriate setting you might consider providing each group of guests with a picnic basket with all the necessaries in it, and a rug to sit on under a tree to enjoy the day. In honour of the occasion you might even want to plant a tree in the garden if the reception is at home!

Instead of bonbonniere, how about a pot of home made jam or chutney?

And if you want to be really different – or almost different because it’s been done already - take your goldfish – or your horse - to the wedding!

Thoughts for You

How to Personalise Your Wedding Ceremony

My Tips For Your Happy Day

1. Tell Your Love Story

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2. Incorporate Meaningful Traditions or Rituals

3. Involve Your Loved Ones

4. Custom Vows

5. Choose a Meaningful Location

6. Add Personal Touches to the Ceremony Script

Leap Year Proposal

Leaping into the Future

Creating Future Memories

Writing a life story

Do I have to?

Do I have to?